The importance of anger in self care

"Huh?"...you might ask. "What does anger have to do with self care? Isn't self care about feeling good?"

Absolutely. And to get there, you might need to begin with a fearless self inventory of the hidden and unhidden anger.

Here's why: If we don't own our anger, it will seep out and lash out in ways that will infect our desire to connect with compassion, wonder and self truth.

To truly do what you love in ways that honor you, it is important that you recognize that which is no longer serving you and the things that get you angry. When you hold anger, you are holding on to that which will keep you guarded. When you hide behind anger, you avoid owning what you want and who you really are.

As you step out to create the life, career, work or relationship you really want, it's vital to recognize where you are holding anger and own your own complicity in it. Odd, but anger can be such a dazzling friend for those who want to live the lie of blame.

This weekend during my retreat, I took some time to notice the things that I am angry about. Not just the global, political issues - more the personal, interpersonal and professional laundry lists of subtle and loud anger. Hmmmm. It is quite eye opening.

Then I asked, "which are keeping you safe in your womb of guarded protection?"

As I created my list, I found myself creating a new contract for myself. As I began to write it down...and yes, I do recommend writing it...I made a list of 10 things that are vital for me to thrive.

When I honor these I find myself loving my life and my work:

• Reach out in a personal, meaningful way.
• Work with people who can hold fear and fun simultaneously.
• Having multiple projects at the same time to balance creativity and structure, individuals and groups, business development & personal growth..
• Work and partner with people who can laugh at themselves.
• Take time each week to reflect on an unexpected harmonious moment.
• Bring diverse people together for a common purpose.
  

And now, it's your turn.

Whether you are recrafting your life, job hunting or business building, this can change the way you connect in the world.

1. Name what you are angry about in your personal, professional and relational life.
2. Be honest, and list the ones you are hiding behind to keep from being exposed.
3. Which are you ready to let go of?
4. What do you most enjoy that will help you thrive?
5. Create a contract for yourself.
   

With love!